There are many groups on social media that pose a real threat to teens.
What to do to keep children safe?
- The main thing is not to lose contact, even if the teenager withdraws, withdraws into himself, closes the door in front of your nose. Be persistent and patient. Try to talk about everything, bring up the most unpleasant topics. Do not use an edifying tone, teach him to live, be on an equal footing. Be blunt: “If you have a problem, let’s discuss it. I will not judge you, I will just listen and try to help. ” Look for common ground. Think about what kind of teenager you were and share your experience with your child.
- Emphasize its uniqueness, especially in matters of reason, intellect. In some moments, it is better to give in. Pink hair, tattoos, piercings are temporary. Adolescence will pass, and the person will definitely “return”, his values will change.
- Tell him what happens when his peers fall under the influence of questionable social groups. There is a lot of scary information on the Internet, and it will surely overtake your child. Therefore, do not close your eyes to her, talk about it with him. Be honest that you are worried because you love him. Convince to be on the alert, not to trust strangers.
- Ask to show you the groups in which he is on social networks, with the following message: “My dear, have pity on me, I am very worried. Give me the opportunity to make sure that no one and nothing threatens you! ” And in no case do it secretly, the child will not forgive you for this.
- Social networks are an integral part of the life of modern adolescents. But the time for gadgets should still be limited. In adolescence, an hour on weekdays is quite enough; on weekends, 2 hours can be allowed. But it is better if your child is busy to the eyeballs so that there is no time left for social networks.
- If a child has enough adrenaline in real life, then he will not look for it on social networks. Let him go in for sports, ride a motorcycle or dive better than he will be tested on the “weak” behind your back.
- Try to spend leisure time together. Go, for example, to a concert of his favorite band. Support him, even if you are not particularly interested. And another time, ask to accompany you – to the theater or to an exhibition.
- Be aware of his life: what is happening at school, how relationships with teachers and classmates develop. You should know who his friends are, their hobbies, beliefs. Teenagers have idols, and they are not always sane personalities.
- It’s great if the family has any traditions, rituals. There must be something that unites everyone – dinners on Saturdays, or playing scrabble in the evenings, or making dumplings.
- According to statistics, only 2-3% of adolescents are worried about their parents. But mostly they are “crackers”, they do not care about the feelings of their parents. Indifference, indifference must be cultivated in them from early childhood. Because a family is when everyone takes care of each other, when children help their mother. The child must have responsibilities around the house, his own area of responsibility.
If you suddenly have problems and your child needs help, our school has a psychological service, where you can always contact.